HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phill

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can really make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is
Don't stay because you think "it will get better"
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up..

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
Even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...
Compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...
There is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.*
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

You should know that:
You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one.

They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices.
Make the right one.

Ladies take care of your own hearts....

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...

You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare

Close call….

Few days ago I had a ‘close call’ of getting robbed!! It only sink in to me after awhile how close and how vulnerable I was. I must say 2 things saved me, 1st my habit of locking car doors as soon as I get in the car and 2nd reading and taking mental note of all the forwarded emails regards to robberies and break ins. When we read forwarded emails we think it would not be us.…but I have learn it could be us, anywhr, any time.

I was driving in the morning to work….it was a rainy morning obviously traffic jam was what can I say other then BAD. So the car was almost non-moving state. Usually to avoid getting frustrated I will keep myself occupied. Usually I will be applying makeup ….yea yea I know im one of those ladies….’the applying makeup in the car lady’ haha

Oh another habit I have is (thanks to forwarded emails) NOT to place my handbag on the passenger seat beside me. So every time I will just chuck my handbag under the passenger seat. So when I was stuck on the road thanks to the traffic jam …I took out my handbag (to get my makeup stuff :P ) from under the seat since I had brought along my laptop (which initially was under the seat as well) I was some how struggling to get my handbag. So what I did was I let my guard down and took the laptop place it on the passenger seat and took my handbag and put it on my lap. So it will be easier for me to reach for my makeup stuff and apply it.

So I was done with my makeup, my handbag was still on my lap….since I was quite near to the office I thought of not putting both my handbag and laptop under the seat. After awhile I realise there was a man on a motor bike parked beside my car’s passenger side….u kn its in the morning everyone rushing to work its normal to have motorbikers all around…its also normal for sleazy idiots to park beside you and look and “admire” at you for no apparent reason. I was very aware of the fact that the guy was near my car…the thing strike me was ‘why is he stalled here?’ because I realise im not obstructing his way nor behind or in front cars…though its jam …for him as a motorbiker plenty of space to manoeuvre his way out and up to go anywhr he wants. I felt uncomfortable ( all these happened within few min) so I looked at him ….coz I know he was looking at me. I wanted to give him the ‘whats wrong with you dude??…just buzz off!!” when I looked at him …he saw me looking at him. Then he keeps looking at my laptop and handbag back and forth!!!!! OH MY GOD! He gave me the look he was up to something ….i cnt forget his look of looking back and forth between handbag and laptop. I knew somehow he was planning to do something. All the emails that I have read before about car break in robberies in daylight, traffic jams and traffic lights just went passed like flash presentation. What I did was I quickly took my laptop and put it on my lap…whr I was already holding my handbag. He stared at me and left!!!!!

He left immediately when I took my laptop away. So he was planning to do something!! That’s when I realise how close I was being a victim of daylight robbery. How careful can people be ….these crooks look for new and innovative idea to get what they want day in day out. The cases of robberies, rapes, murders its increasing day by day !!!!

Heartless

I have officially become THE heartless daughter…bravo to me. It was pretty easy to achieve it I just had to ignore what ever my parents want me to do. It started out with something that they want me to do which they think its good for me and of coz I think its ridiculous and absurd. So obviously it’s a conflict and interest and both parties are no budging even an inch plus with too many awkward moments…pheww *DRAMA !!*

When all reasoning fails my mum takes out her ‘emotional blackmail card’… I dnt get it whats with Asian parents and blackmailing techniques. I gotta admit at first I was all guilty and feeling like a real ass for going against them….but I still not budging from my decision. Everyone keep saying how heartless I am ….but guess what is I keep looking out for other plp’s heart who gonna take care of my heart. So u know what screw it im taking care of my heart!!

So ‘emotional blackmail card’ didn’t work my dad brings out his ‘intimidating card’..im like his he kidding me??!!! Come on what he gonna do manhandle me…please…get real!

The JOKE is what we are arguing for is a PETTY issue when I say PETTY trust me its PETTY …but I know deep down we are no longer arguing about the issue we indirectly wanna see who gonna win the battle…u kn what I am looking for winning war so bring it on!!!!

Its been long ....

its been very very long since I have sat down and actually wrote something :P life been bumpy so I guess that’s leave me with not much of time to write. Well im trying to start back on writing though. Hopefull I will continue this time without halt hehe